Hello Readers and welcome to Vibe the Soul, a 4 part series that I will be discussing with you about 4 elements that I believe adds a great deal of value to your life. I would like to strongly and openly express my views that may be interpreted as opinionated or at times a form of tough love. Just know, that this is only for your self-evaluation and to self reflect on your life. I enjoy all feedback and comments good or bad, I only ask that you be respectful.
If you have not read my previous blog about the 4 elements, please refer to the blog Vibe the Soul Elements. Also, refer to the first element Vibe The Soul- Element Pt I.- Health.
Let’s Vibe about Love, the 2nd Element. And I want to Vibe with you along the terms of Relationships.
Everyone needs Love. And everyone needs to feel the affection, intimacy, passion, and desire of what Love has to offer. I can’t ask what Love is to anybody because everyone Loves differently. Everyone shows and receives love differently. So there is no true definition to Love. Well there is, but it’s YOUR definition on how you should be loved. What I do know, is that Love makes you FEEL something so deep, that it can either be overwhelmingly pleasing to the soul and bring nothing but happiness and excitement. Or it can truly be a damaging, heart aching, not to mention depressing and overwhelming feeling of sadness. How can one word be so powerful and can cause 2 opposite emotions? Joy and Pain. I don’t know. So let me reiterate that I am no expert. I can only relate to the feeling of both emotions of this powerful expression.
As for me, when I love. I love hard. That means I am wholeheartedly and 100% entwined with whomever I am involved with. Not clingy, Not controlling. Respectful. Trust is at its high and I never give my significant other a reason to question my loyalty. I am supportive no matter how high or low the dreams and goals are. A person is not made to be broken down but to be built up. Flaws deserve the most unconditional love. They are wounds that either cannot be healed, or guarded and waiting to unfold, or is something that is improving and developing in a positive direction. Growing with someone is a bond that continues to improve the relationship. Chivalry should never get old. And telling someone you love them should never dissolve. Hearing those words is just as deep as feeling it. But genuinely meaning it, is what matters the most. That’s what Love is. Yet a lot people find this so hard to do. I’ll tell you why. There are a plethora of beautiful men and women in this world. So when there’s options, there’s opportunity. Love is rushed and then later down the line, love is tested. Relationships get lazy. When someone is not shown how they SHOULD be loved, they look it as an opportunity run. You can’t love someone how you think they should be loved. You have to learn how that person should be loved. And you have to teach that person how you want to be loved. You can’t stray when things get tough. That is the problem with people ( cough -*Millennials* cough lol) these days. Don’t play with love and someone’s heart. If you are not ready to love someone, be open and honest. That’s why a lot of people fall into the hardest emotion of love which is pain. Love is used in vain. And there’s no fight for love anymore. Do you know why? People think loving one person is not easy. And that folks, will be something I will NEVER understand.
I choose love as part of this element because your heart needs that warmth. It truly is soothing to your mind, body, and health.
Love will not always come from a significant other at all times ( shout out to my singles lol) but to be loved by family and friends is everything. I find that a lot people who are not whole within their families take that hurt into new relationships. Or they will take a past hurtful relationship into the next. Don’t do that. Give your mind and soul time to heal. You can’t love someone when you don’t love yourself or if you haven’t healed from the previous hurt. You are still broken. I didn’t come from a broken home. I grew up with 2 parents in my household for the past 33 years of my life. I want what my parents have. That unconditional love. I have seen the highs and rock bottom of my parents love for each other but they have a bond so deep that keeps adding on to their milestone of marriage. And I LOVE IT! It’s a covenant that they have promised 35 years ago that keeps my hope alive about love.
I have SO much to say about this element but I don’t want you to read your eyes out! lol so perhaps I will run another series in the near future about love/relationships/ dating.
But I want to leave everyone with this. When you find love. Keep it. Work for it. Let me say that again, WORK. FOR. IT. Don’t get lazy. Love your mate all over again, every day, and in different ways. Keep it interesting. Keep it surprising. Learn new things about each other. I don’t know why but I like things out of the ordinary and non cliché’, that’s what keeps my heart on fire! If you are not laughing and trying new things or building and growing then perhaps you are not meant for each other. And I know the heartache of letting go but sometimes you have to let what you love go if it’s hurting you. Love is work folks. But when it’s reciprocated, it doesn’t feel like work. You need this element. Both sides of it. The good, the bad, and sometimes the ugly. We are human. We have all broken hearts or had our hearts broken. Good Love keeps you on cloud 9 while bad love shows who you are , your strength, and life love lessons.
Everyone deserves to be loved. EVERYBODY. And I still believe that there is someone for everybody. So don’t give up on it.
Love -Self Evaluation:
What are your views on love?
Do you believe in Love?