I am always speaking life about self love and when I do, I hope everyone knows that I am speaking to all men and women of all ages. I want to vibe about self love specifically directed toward men. We always hear how men are being patronized and broken down at times and I do think it is important to realize that men deserve to be loved and uplifted just as much as women do. ( Artist By: Maia Magoga)
There are men out there who feel as though they have to have this broad chest, big shoulders, head high, and an ego on level 10 in order to be recognized as …..a MAN. But even beneathe all of the masculinity, I know men have emotions of being vulnerable, depressed, or dejected behind closed doors. Like women, they sometimes feel as though they have to put on a daily mask every day, to show that they are brave, tough, and strong but the dominance of the alpha male is not always rewarding. It’s not always necessary but a craving of self attention or perhaps a cry for help. Not all women understand that. Hell, not all of society gets that. So I understand men being trapped in a conflicted turmoil of self destruction.
- You feel as though a sign of emotion is a sign of weakness.
- You feel the pressure or feel expected to act tough because it is where you came from or how you were brought up
- You feel as though having the fancy car, big house, and all the money in the world will “get the girl”
- You feel you are constantly feared or rejected because you, as a man, exist.
This is what is surfaced. To us. To Society.
I hardly know what men go through or the things they suffer from or why. Clearly I am not an expert.
But I know men battle certain things in life that are deeper than what is surfaced or deemed as a typical struggle. That’s why stats show that nearly 6 million men are affected by depression every year. And that’s why millions of men suffer from mental health . We don’t realize it because sometimes the pride within, won’t show it. I know men suppress their feelings and emotions because they have nobody to be vulnerable with. They have nobody who can withstand that side of them without being labeled as “weak.” To be that dependable rock can’t always be the expectation of a man’s character when he is battling inner trauma, deep emotions, or self affliction. Men cannot always be that stable. They break to. It’s important that we let them know how much we value them.
To my dad, my brother, my male cousins, my uncles, to your young boys to oldest, to my whomever my future husband may be and possible future sons………and ALL men.
I want you to reveal who you are. Unapologetically. Be the man God called you to be. Share how you feel with someone because sentiment release of emotions releases the tension of what you are capable of as a man. Put the bottle down. Turn away from drugs. Put your ego down. Set the pride to the side. Whatever it is that makes you numb. Remove it. I want to see you happy. I want to see you become the man you wanted to be when you were young. I want to see you soar in your profession and take pride in caring for the ones you love. Your muscle is your mind and your power is your heart.
Teach other boys and men how to be strong, but also teach them how to be open and expressive. Let them know that crying is okay if you hurt. And when you have nobody to turn to, we are here for you. We as the ones that understand and are close to you and will listen WITHOUT judgement. Only if you let us in. You are amazing. You are handsome. You are extraordinary. I admire your courage to press forward through the hardest times but I will respect your will to expose your true being.
Thank you for being the rock, The foundation, and the force we need when we as women can’t be.
One of my favorite songs ever written that resonates with men struggles.
Lyfe Jennings- Cry